But don’t be naive – there is a good reason why the ex-partner is your ex-partner and why he wears the prefix EX at all. You don’t want to be with that person anymore, you don’t need that person in your life… and then he comes back, seeks contact as if nothing had happened.
Sex with the ex-partner? That’s what only narcissistic people usually demand. With this they want to prove that they can still control their former partner and have power over his life. With such steps narcissists want to replenish their energy, which already makes enormous self-confidence even greater. They want to prove that they are still capable of landing with their ex-partner. If they get what they wanted, they don’t need you anymore, of course until the next desire.
Narcissists are like drug addicts, are holding the effect they are in a good mood and need nothing to get along with anything. But when the effect wears off, they look for you, they need you, so that they get the confirmation again that they can wrap you around their little fingers. But if the narcissists don’t succeed and the ex-partner doesn’t want them anymore, they look for someone who wants to have sex, they go to parties, drink, look for new victims.
Narcissists are people who cannot find inner peace, people who are not quite clear with themselves. They feed their lonely soul through the abuse of other people. They have no interest in the feelings of ex-partners, they are so selfish that they deal with other people as with dolls, sad but true.
In some cases narcissists can also become better people, but this is rarely the case. Only the few of them see their mistakes after the separation and try to make the best of themselves. Only the few narcissists leave their ex in peace and devote themselves to their lives. As I said before, all of this happens rarely or in dreams. The reality looks completely different…
Why do narcissists seek contact with their ex and can they finally get rid of him?
After the separation, narcissists become even worse, even meaner, even more selfish. They become aggressive and even if the ex-partner has nothing to do with the separation, the narcissist wants to take revenge on him. The separation is the best reason for narcissistic people to blame their partner for everything. He enjoys blaming others for blaming you for everything that wasn’t good. People of weak character believe that too; they believe that their narcissistic partner is right. You start to feel shit about it. You think you were a bad partner yourself and you weren’t able to have a good relationship.
But you must not think like that. You must remain strong and not believe a word he says. He just wants to get confirmation that he can still seduce you. He wants to prove to himself that he can do anything he wants with you. And if he does not succeed, then he looks for other means to get to you…
You can’t be happy with narcissists, not start a family, nothing. And at the end of the day that is exactly what counts, the most important thing. Happiness cannot be bought, but there are people who like happiness with other parts and such narcissistic ex-partners are certainly not.
You deserve only the best and should never forget that…
If you don’t want to have contact with your narcissistic ex-boyfriend anymore, he will go other ways to get to you and make your life harder.
Many narcissists, for example, seek contact with their mutual friends or just with your friends after the separation. Narcissists want everyone in your circle of friends to think they are the best and the only good ones in all of history. And that’s why you always have to be one step ahead of the narcissists. Talk to your friends and let those who know you well know exactly who the bad guy is in the whole story.
Through the constant lying and the constant acting, narcissists actually start to believe that they are not lying, they really start to think that they are telling the truth. They play the role so well that it looks like real reality. Narcissists do not notice their own weaknesses. In their own world they are perfect and no one can stand in their way.
The only good thing about the whole thing is that you can usually know in advance what narcissists will do next. The steps of the narcissistic ex-boyfriend are easy to guess. You just have to concentrate and not fall for their trick, that’s the most important thing, otherwise you can already imagine what will happen to you. But as in other areas, there are exceptions. Some narcissists are very smart and have everything under control, so it’s really hard to always be one step ahead of them.
Narcissists seek contact with the ex when no one is there for him any more
The “stupid” ex is always reachable – that’s what he thinks. Just a few nice words and everything is arranged. Even though the narcissist may already have a new girlfriend, this is no reason or obstacle for him to contact his ex-girlfriend. He seeks contact with the ex when the new girl gets bored – it’s so easy with him and the worst thing is, he thinks nothing of it. He does everything right in his head.
If you are the ex-girlfriend and ask yourself: “Why do narcissists seek contact with the ex?” then you have to know that he does this in order to take advantage of you – quite simply. At least he will try because he thinks that you are still there for him and that your whole world revolves around him. You should prove him exactly the opposite.
The narcissistic ex-partner loses himself in his frustration and wants to relive the old habits. He contacts the ex-partner and hopes that she still wants him. The narcissist also wants to have a good relationship with the ex after the separation because he needs someone like her in emergency situations and he wants to be prepared for such situations. And don’t think that you are the only one, he certainly has other ex-partners with whom he is in contact.
If one of them can’t, he turns to the other. One is good to talk to and the other to have for hot nights. If you can’t completely forget your ex-partner and still have some feelings for him, you are fertile ground for the narcissistic ex-boyfriend. A seductive message will be enough to lure you into the bedroom.
He thinks that it’s not worth it to approach new women, that it’s more expensive and not one hundred percent sure that it will work. The easier variant is of course the ex. It is always available, the narcissist thinks. But that can also be the truth, because some ex-girlfriends who are still emotionally attached to the ex-narcissistic friend are happy when they hear something from him.
You think that he has changed and give him a new chance immediately. When the ex notices this, he takes advantage of it and shows himself at his best. He shows compassion and assures you that it will not be like before and that he is different now. But all this is just a bad plan and very good acting skills.
After you have given the narcissist some signs, he won’t stop, he tries again and again. Even if all this means only one thing to the narcissist, guess what? – Sex, of course, means something completely different for the partner, she thinks that he is a different person now and will not make the same mistakes anymore. He doesn’t do that either, but only for the first time, until he has you completely under control again.
Narcissists are addictive
Narcissists make us addicted? Is that right or wrong?
There are different theories, some think that this is not the truth, and others who have experienced it stand by the theory. But only people who have been the “victim” of a narcissist can know that.
The narcissist gives you something you need, you long for him. And although he gives you all that, he also takes it back. The narcissistic person is not like a normal man who gives you all of himself and stands by you. He gives you everything and promises you much more, but only for a short time, and only until he has your love and trust back. Surely now you understand why a narcissistic ex-boyfriend is addictive. You want to feel this feeling he gives you over and over again, although you know that it doesn’t last forever.
Everything is fake and staged. Like every addiction, it’s not good. You just feel better at the moment, it can’t be good in the long run. But you can free yourself from addiction, and it’s quite simple: with self-love. Doesn’t sound difficult, does it? If you love yourself, the right people love you too, you won’t need a narcissist in your life anymore.
Of course it is difficult to recognize a narcissist at the beginning of the relationship, especially when you are in love and see everything through rose-colored glasses. For this reason you should always be a little skeptical and not believe everything your partner says. Of course don’t overdo it with skepticism, but don’t leave anything to chance.
A narcissist always needs far too much attention and that is exactly what you should pay attention to. These toxic people only want one thing, admiration. They want all attention to be focused on them even after the end of the relationship. Narcissists have a precise plan on how they can control and manipulate you.
The narcissists keep seeking contact with the ex because they are afraid of losing control. And they know exactly who is weak and who can serve them as a playing surface. The toxic ex-partner cannot bear it when the partner wants to start a new life, so he makes it difficult for her. Even if you can hardly believe it: such people actually exist.
The narcissists report to the ex because they are cold and are not afraid to hurt anyone. They don’t care if their girlfriend is sad or hurt. The narcissists have no need to really help someone, but if they do, they expect something back from you. And if you talk to your narcissistic ex-partner about why he does such evil and toxic things, you don’t get an answer. Maybe you get one, but it’s not true.
Narcissists have a special way of making you feel guilty. They criticize and make minor remarks about things we might do wrong. Narcissists confront their partners with things they are probably uncomfortable with themselves, so that you are ashamed of something you have not done. Narcissists believe that the world and the ex-girlfriend don’t work without him. A narcissist thinks that the ex can’t get along without him and is lost even though he didn’t give her good. But if the relationship with the narcissistic ex works, you want more and more, but you have no inner peace and contentment.
The narcissistic ex-partner wants to find out everything through the text, he wants to know your weaknesses and then exploit all the collected information. He uses the weakest moment and attacks. You should be careful, don’t let him, he just wants him to be well and that will never change, narcissists are just like that. As I said before, they are good actors and nothing more.
And finally, if you are in such a situation and don’t know what to do, think about the reasons that led to the end of the narcissist’s relationship. The reasons that hurt you because you didn’t sleep. You have to travel together and try to be strong, only then you can defeat the narcissistic ex-partner and get rid of him forever.
He will try again and again, but don’t give him the pleasure, he doesn’t deserve it. He will only take advantage of you and control you. You are only food for his ego, but someone has to put an end to him and that can be you.
The lies of the narcissists know no bounds, they are ready to do anything to get there. Some use even the most wretched tricks, such as faking a disease. Narcissists become more and more professional in manipulating other people, they learn new methods that they impatiently try out. You should be prepared for everything and don’t be surprised.
Avoid these people, there is no better tip. Every reaction they get from you gives them more motivation to move on. You can close the circle, there should be no more victims suffering because of a narcissistic ex-partner. It can be a long way. The narcissist doesn’t give up easily, but if he does, you can be proud.
Because it is not an easy task to stop and get rid of a narcissist. Live your life, don’t be like them. Only if you don’t seek revenge can you be sure that you are healed and ultimately that is the most important thing.
The truth is that narcissistic ex-boyfriends couldn’t bear the happiness of their ex-partner and that’s why you should laugh and be happy. Find a person who awakens the most beautiful thing in you, with whom you can have fun at any moment.
You can’t be happy with narcissists, not start a family, nothing. And at the end of the day that is exactly what counts, the most important thing. Happiness cannot be bought, but there are people who like happiness with other parts and such narcissistic ex-partners are certainly not.
You deserve only the best and should never forget that…