Category: Life
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5 Healthy Relationship Boundaries That Actually Draw Men Closer To You
Keep that romance alive. Healthy relationship boundaries are important to keeping every relationship alive and full of spark but they are something that are not often part of relationship building. Healthy boundaries come in many shapes and sizes, depending on the couple, but there are 5 basic boundaries that should exist in every relationship: 1. It is important to spend […]
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5 Surprising Strategies for Dealing With Low Self-Confidence
I’ve been writing quite a lot lately about strategies for coping with low self-confidence (e.g., here, here, and here). It occurred to me that there are some strategies I personally use which I haven’t mentioned, because they’re a bit more nuanced than some typical strategies. They might not make sense at first glance, but they can be very helpful and effective. Let’s unpack […]
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When Your Depression and Anxiety Makes You Feel Like a Burden
Mental illness is extremely tough — both struggling through it yourself, to having a loved one who is struggling with it. I have been on both sides of the coin. Currently, I am dealing with anxiety and depression. I have dealt with it for the past six years, and every single day is a blessing and a curse at […]
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What I Hear When You Tell Me to ‘Stop Being So Negative’
This is a common sentence many of us with mental illnesses get told. “Just focus on something else.” “There’s so much good in the world, stop focusing on the bad.” You don’t think I have tried? For much of my life I have dealt with anxiety and depression. This means almost all the time I am either over-catastrophizing, […]
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I Don’t Care If I’m Single Forever — I’m DONE Playing These 12 Dumb Dating Games
One of the things that makes dating so stressful today is all the balancing acts we feel like we have to do to make things work out in our favor. We want to appear interested, but not TOO interested. We want commitment, but we also want to retain our freedom. It’s all so confusing, but […]
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When Relationships Don’t Work
There are numerous people for whom being in a relationship just isn’t right. There are numerous people for whom being in a relationship just doesn’t work. They have gone to therapy, changed partners, read books, and attended workshops in Bali — yet they cannot maintain a long-term relationship. And that’s OK — not everyone is destined to become […]
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5 Keys to Successful Relationships
Like strong houses, good relationships need a solid foundation. So where to do couples get stuck in their relationships? In my long years of doing couple therapy, I’ve found that there are five key areas where couples struggle. If you are able to master these, you have a solid foundation for a successful relationship. See how well you […]
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No, I’m Not Nervous — I’m Anxious. And Yes, There’s a Difference.
I am not nervous. I am anxious. And there is a world of difference between the two. I don’t get butterflies. My stomach drops to my feet until I feel like I’m going to throw up. I don’t have sweaty palms. My entire body temperature rises until it feels like I am immersed in a […]
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11 Things to Do When You Feel Like You Don’t Have Anybody
It’s easy to say, “Reach out for help.” It’s easy to say, “Confide in your support system.” It’s easy to say, “You’re never alone.” But what if, despite what everyone says, you still feel alone? Unfortunately that’s the reality for many people who feel like they don’t have a support system to turn to or friends […]
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21 Things That Will Inevitably Happen When You Find Your Forever Person
When you get that feeling where you know where you’re supposed to be, what you want your future to look like, who you want to spend your time with, who, at the end of the day will be there for you, you’ve most likely found your forever person. For some, that happens in middle school. […]