Whether I know you in real life or not, I know you. I know your daily struggle as you navigate this world solo, because I’ve been there. I know you’re strong and independent and you don’t need anyone to complete you or your life, but admit it: part of you really wants to meet someone special. That’s perfectly normal; nobody dreams of being alone forever. It may feel like there’s nobody out there for you, but that’s not true — here’s why:
1. YOU’RE STRONG, AND STRENGTH IS SEXY.
It might not seem like guys appreciate strong women, but that’s because you haven’t met the right one yet. Some guys are weak and intimidated by you; so what? When you meet one who’s worthy of you, he’ll be strong enough to love you for exactly who you are. Until then, being a strong, independent woman is fun, so live it up!
2. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH ENJOYING YOUR SINGLE LIFE.
In fact, that’s exactly what you should be doing. You have a lot of life and career goals, and you should aim to achieve every single of one of them. Being open to love is just a mindset; it shouldn’t detract from your happiness or success in any way.
3. YOU DON’T HAVE TO TRY SO HARD.
I know you feel like you have to try to find love, and that spirit is admirable, but sometimes you get better results by just leaving it up to fate. When you get tired of reading profile after profile and swiping left or right, go ahead and free yourself by deleting the dating apps and just enjoying life until you meet someone who’s doing the same thing. Then, you can enjoy life together.
4. STOP TRYING TO BE PERFECT.
I know sometimes you feel like you have to be perfect to find love, but that’s not true. Real love is forgiving of imperfection; it’s a lesson most people don’t learn until they actually find it. Just be yourself, and let it find you.
5. STOP PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR PARENTS’ PRESSURE.
If you’ve ever avoided going home for a holiday because you just didn’t want to talk about why you’re not married yet, you know what I mean. Your mom probably was married and had kids when she was younger than you, but she also grew up in a different era. Your story will play out like it’s supposed to, and no amount of nagging will speed it up.
6. YOU’RE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL.
It’s a rough world out there for women, and we’re unfairly judged based on our looks alone quite often. The truth is, nobody’s perfect and you’re beautiful exactly as you are. If someone doesn’t see you in that way, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; it just means they’re not right for you.
7. YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT.
I know it seems so out of reach right now, but that changes so quickly. Don’t be afraid to hope for the future you want; you know you deserve it all.
8. PLEASE DON’T SETTLE.
I know it’s tough, but don’t settle for someone just because he likes you. Even if you know he’ll treat you so nicely, you still need to hold out for the real thing. When you find it and feel how magical it is, you’ll be glad you did.