JANUARY
Stay single until you meet someone who runs at the same speed that you do.
You are unstoppably ambitious, so if you’re going to be in a relationship that lasts, you need to make sure it’s with someone who can keep up with you, challenge you, and support you. Stay single until you meet the person who not only makes your life better, but who makes you better too because of their support, their encouraging love, and their own inspirational qualities.
FEBRUARY
Stay single until you meet someone who never tries to make you someone you’re not.
One of your best qualities is not only the fact that you are your own person, but that you are proud and confident and comfortable with the fact that you are your own person. You never try to blend in or please anybody else, and you deserve someone who will absolutely love you for that. Stay single until you meet someone who wants you to dance to the beat of your own drum while they dance to the beat of theirs, and who makes you feel safe, secure, and completely cherished for who you are.
MARCH
Stay single until you meet someone who wants to take care of you first.
Your compassion, selflessness, and warmth are incredible attributes – but they are only deserved by the people who want to care for you and show kindness to you just as much as you do to them. So stay single until you meet the person who puts you above all other people and things, who is constantly looking for ways both big and small to show you how much you mean to them, and who won’t take you for granted for even a second.
APRIL
Stay single until you’re with the person who treasures your spark, rather than being intimidated by it.
Some people don’t know how to handle you – you are comfortable with yourself, you won’t apologize for being who you are, and you’re uniquely memorable. So you deserve to be with a person who loves you for your self-assurance and your unapologetic confidence, instead of being jealous or scared of those characteristics. Stay single until you meet the person who only wants to grow with you, and never wants you to make yourself smaller.
MAY
Stay single until you meet the person who understands you and just ‘gets’ you in a way that is effortless and easy.
You’re a person who knows what they want, and you shouldn’t ever feel the need to apologize for being focused, ambitious, and certain about which way you want your life to go. You deserve someone who wants to be part of your life, not someone who wants an explanation for it. Stay single until you meet the person who wants to grow with you, learn new things with you, and most importantly, run alongside you.
JUNE
Stay single until you meet the person who brings you a thousand times more joy than pain.
Relationships are going to be hard and challenging no matter what, but they shouldn’t be insanely painful or gut-wrenching. When you’re with the right person, you have to swallow your pride sometimes and make compromises and take risks with your heart, but it shouldn’t mean you have to be dealing with heartbreak all the time and feeling inadequate or not as loved as you could be. So stay single until you find someone who not only loves you for your big heart, but puts 100% effort every day into taking care of your heart and loving you the way you deserve to be loved.
JULY
Stay single until you meet the person who loves the deeper side of you just as much as they love the light, sparkling side of you.
Because of your warm nature and your dazzling energy, people are always drawn to you and they love being around you. But when it comes to getting to know people on a level that goes a little more in depth than that first, easy, fun and silly level – you always feel terrified, overwhelmed, and like you’ll never be good enough. But you deserve someone who’s not afraid to be vulnerable with you and who understands that things won’t always be perfect all the time. So stay single until you meet the person who loves you truly for every side of you – the fun, bright side, and more importantly, the complex, vulnerable, and imperfect side.
AUGUST
Stay single until you meet the person who actually feels like a fair and capable match for you.
You’re a lot to handle – in a good way. You have an inherent talent for leadership, you’re fearless, and you’re a force to be reckoned with. But you also struggle with pride and restlessness, and occasionally acting impulsively. So stay single until you meet the person who can keep up with you – who never tries to change you into someone you’re not but who also knows when to put their foot down and how to stand up for themselves.
SEPTEMBER
Stay single until you meet someone who knows how to get through to you on a more emotional and vulnerable level.
You are wonderfully confident in your own abilities and in what goals you want to accomplish, and you work harder than anyone you know. But you also have a tendency to push people away when you feel them getting too close – you’ll become critical, or say things you don’t mean, or ignore your own heart even when it knows it wants something. Stay single until you meet the person who’s not afraid to work through that in order to be with you – the person who is comfortable and confident enough in who they are to present themselves wholeheartedly to you and to encourage you to do the same.
OCTOBER
Stay single until you meet someone who brings you outside your own head.
You’ve never struggled with making friends and you probably never will; your charm is effortless and you give and receive affection easily. But you definitely struggle with fretting over what other people think, stressing over things that actually aren’t a big deal, and getting lost inside the unnecessarily worried thoughts inside your own brain. Stay single until you meet someone who can pull you out to the other side – who helps you to live a little lighter and to stop worrying so much about everyone else’s thoughts so much that you forget to allow yourself to live joyfully and presently in your own life.
NOVEMBER
Stay single until you meet someone who brings a much-needed balance into your life.
You should never try to crush your sense of ambition, your desire to do big things and get things done, and your endless curiosity and enthusiasm about life. But sometimes, for your own mental and emotional health and wellness, you need to remember to slow down, rest, and give yourself a break. Stay single until you meet someone who helps you do this – the person who never wants to hold you back, but also wants to make sure you’re always taking care of yourself, so that you can continue growing into the best possible person you can be.
DECEMBER
Stay single until you meet someone who brings a sense of calm, peace, and patience to your life.
There’s nothing wrong with being an active, excited, and go-getter type of person; these are some of your very best attributes. But at the same time, there is a problem when you’re trying to do too many things at once – you can get impatient and hasty while forgetting to look at the whole picture, and you sometimes need a reminder to just breathe. Stay single until you meet the person who can do this for you – the person who supports you and encourages you endlessly, but also brings you the sense of tranquility and calm that you’ve been missing in your life for a long time.
By Sophie Wrenfield for ThoughtCatalog