I’m as much if not more in favor of believing that “The One” exists as the next woman. Sadly, life keeps throwing me examples of guys that not only are total douchebags and losers. While I believe wholeheartedly that the perfect guy is out there somewhere, in the meantime I’ve resigned myself to having to kiss a whole lotta frogs.
1. I don’t care what anyone says—most men only want one thing.
Whether he’s laughing at your jokes, stopping by your desk every 10 minutes or feigning interest in that great film you saw last weekend, it’s all the same: he wants to get in your pants. When the Lord made man, he must have missed a few of the key wirings he gave to women, because most men I’ve met seem motivated by one thought alone: When are they next getting laid?
2. They take advantage of unsuspecting romantics.
Guys may act all innocent but they know how to play the game a whole lot better than us. They have the mysterious, misunderstood heartthrob act down to a fine art and we fall for it every time. Guys manipulate our love of romance to get us to go out with them, then become their normal crappy selves as soon as they’ve got us hooked. You know the guy that was desperate to hear from you when you started dating and now takes three days to text back because he knows you’re committed? Yup, he’s a jerk too.
3. Most men are painfully self-centered.
It’s not really their fault—guys seem hard-wired to think the absolute best of themselves no matter what. Have you ever been in an argument with a guy about something that couldn’t be more plainly his fault and found yourself ending up apologizing? Most men are so self-centered that they cannot comprehend the idea of being in the wrong. It seriously sucks.
4. They believe they deserve the world.
We need to get a slice of whatever men are eating that makes them think they deserve the world with no personal input whatsoever. When most women find themselves in a loving, fulfilling relationship, they have to keep pinching themselves to remind them that this is real and they deserve it. Men? Not so much. As far as they’re concerned, having someone love them unconditionally is pretty much the least they deserve.
5. They can do no wrong in society’s eyes.
With so many women inadvertently backing up the idea that women who sleep around are sluts or “asking for it,” we can’t entirely blame men for their golden status in society. What we can do, though, is feel justifiably annoyed by the players who take advantage of this system. Why is it okay for guys to sleep around and never call but for them to act all sensitive if they receive the same treatment? It’s time men cottoned on to the fact that we have just as much right to play the field as them.
6. They aren’t plagued by the same fears as women.
Battling with your confidence seems a rite of passage as a woman. Worrying about how you look, what people think of you, and if your BF really wants to be with you or is just waiting for something better are all part of the dating game for us. Not only do most men seem completely immune from these kinds of worries but they take advantage of our insecurities to play women off each other. If man’s philosophy is divide and rule, he’s got it down to a fine art.
7. Guys think nothing of dropping girls like a stone.
Whether it’s being ghosted or unceremoniously dumped, we’ve all experienced the pain of being dropped like a stone by a guy we really like. I wonder how guys justify that kind of behavior to themselves? You’d never catch me or my girlfriends treating a man the same way—sadly only further proof that most men are just douchebags.
8. They’re insensitive AF.
Bless them, most guys just don’t have the emotional capacity women have come to expect. Unfortunately, while that has next to no impact on them, we have to deal with dating guys who are constantly hurting our feelings. Whether it’s comments about our weight, appearance, or an offhand, cutting remark, man’s insensitivity is offending women all over the world, every day.
9. Since when did we have to do all the chasing?
Isn’t the whole point of romance that the woman waits round minding her own business while love and adoration come to her? These days, it feels like the tables have turned in a major way, and all of a sudden it’s the girl who has to do all the hard work. Running round men with an ego the size of Mars isn’t exactly my idea of a good time, but it seems like that’s what I’ll have to do if I want a date by next year.
10. I wouldn’t trust most men as far as I could throw them.
Seriously, do you need any more proof that most men are total a**holes? Their only saving grace is the slightly alarming fact that a lot of them are completely oblivious to what crappy dates they are. If you find a gem who breaks free from this description, please let me know. Otherwise, I’ll carry on wading through the crappy dates to find my prince.
By Isobel Edwards for Bolde