Priorities.
It’s never true whenever a person says that they “don’t have the time” to do things for you. They have the time; it’s just that they don’t want to have to waste it on you. Always remember that. People will always MAKE the time for the most important things in their life. And they will willingly sacrifice those that aren’t so important to them. It’s just that simple, really. So whenever a person tells you, “I’m sorry. I just don’t have the time. I’m too busy”, then that person is also saying “You’re not important enough for me actually make the time.”
Always know that time is the most precious and most valuable thing that you could ever give or receive from anyone. Time is the only thing in this world that no one has the power to buy, bargain for, extend, or reason with. We are only given the time that we’re given and that’s that. We have to make the most of it and that’s why we don’t ever want to be wasting our time on things that aren’t important to us; the things that shouldn’t matter in our life.
So why are you wasting so much time on a person who is obviously not going to devote any time to you?
When you fall in love with a person and you both get into a relationship together, you are both going to have to make some compromises in life. One particular compromise that you’re going to have to make is your sense of individual time. When you are in a relationship with someone, your time is no longer entirely your own. You have to be able to share your time with another person. This means that you have to consciously allot some time out of your day for your relationship and your significant other. This also means that if you’re planning for the future, you always have to take into consideration how your relationship and your partner is going to fit into the grand scheme of things. Time is tricky, but it can always be managed well – especially when two people are madly in love with one another. In life in general, it’s always important for a person to practice efficient and effective time management. This principle also carries over into relationships as well.
So when you fall in love with a person, you should be willing to give your time to that person. You should be willing to drop whatever it is that you’re doing to run to your partner when they need help. You should be willing to reschedule your appointments with other people if your partner is feeling lonely and vulnerable. You should be willing to spend lots of time with your partner to help build that emotional connection that you need to sustain the actual strength of your relationship. The amount of time that you directly invest in your love is correlated to how strong your affection for one another actually is.
But if you have a partner who just doesn’t seem to have the time for you, then that is a definite cause for worry. If your partner is telling you that they’re just too busy to spend time with you, then they’re also telling you that there are other things in their lives that are more important than you. They are telling you that you just didn’t make the cut. Whenever someone tells you that they just can’t make the time to be with you, then they are just telling you that maybe you don’t really matter to them as much as you think you do.
Not to say that you are always going to be entitled to the time and attention of your partner in the relationship. You have to be respectful of each other’s individual freedom and space. But of course, a relationship is always going to be much healthier when both individuals use their freedom to choose to spend time with one another as much as they possibly could. Love never reaches its peak within a day. A real connection can never be at its strongest in just a matter of minutes. It takes a lot of serious time, effort, and dedication to make a love grow and prosper. It takes a lot of time to really strengthen a relationship.
So always make sure that you never underestimate the value of time in a relationship. When you love one another, make time for each other. If you feel like you deserve more time from your busy partner, then open up about it. Don’t disregard your feelings. Don’t be afraid to demand for more time and attention. Don’t be afraid of asking your partner to actually make you a priority in life.