There are no truer words spoken than those from the mouth of a person who says they do not want to be in a relationship. Despite the feelings, cute actions and love that could grow with someone like this, it is pointless to look for a future with them. This person will break your heart and you’ll be confused as fuck for a really long time if you don’t stick up for yourself. There’s no getting around someone’s inner desires, and no matter how phenomenal of a person you are, you can’t and won’t ever be able to compete with someone’s truth. I believe we can meet people who transform our lives and show us what’s possible for love and relationships but the reality is that person isn’t the one.
The person who loves you, values you, and sees your worth will either commit or set you free. If you value yourself, you’ll go with the option of setting yourself free. Release yourself from limbo, wanting to be chosen, and desiring to be desired by someone who isn’t capable. It sucks! Time, energy, trust, faith and love went into building with someone. However, chances are more time and energy will be wasted if you don’t step up and pull the plug on the whole relationship. One day, someday, maybe, this person will want to be in a relationship with you. What happens until then? You close yourself off from others emotionally? You align yourself with someone who doesn’t want a future with you. That means what exactly? Are you loyal? Are you patient? Are you delusional? Hiding from yourself? Selling out on yourself? Which of those answers resonate with you?
Choose yourself before anyone else can choose you. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated. You know what happens when you wait for someone who won’t commit to you? They take you for granted because you settled for their scraps. They give you any old thing and any old lines and any old behavior because they know you’ll take it. They will disrespect you but hide it under the guise of self-preservation and you’ll go along with it. Each time you accept something that you know is not okay, you allow that behavior to continue and you dig yourself further into pain.
Get out. Get away. Leave. Choose yourself.
By Arihat East for thoughtcatalog