Category: Heartbreak
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I’m The Other Woman And Loving Your Husband Hurts ME, Too
After all this time, I still hope he leaves you. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine. We sit across from one another at the Greasy Spoon diner, reaching over the table to touch hands, caressing thumbs with the tenderness of a violin player. We must be touching, always touching. We joke and […]
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Sometimes Loving Him Means Letting Him Walk Away
When love isn’t enough, it’s time to move on. The hardest decision I ever made was whether to let my drug addict husband leave or to try to keep the family together for my son. I was raised Catholic and no one in my family had been divorced. I didn’t want to be a single […]
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If He Doesn’t Chase You When You Walk Away — Keep Walking!
And don’t you DARE look back. After a certain point in a relationship, you get an internal sense of whether or not this person is “the one.” Now a lot of people tell me “when you know, you know,” and if you don’t know, well then you still kind of know, ya know? All tongue twisters aside, […]
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To The Man Who Broke My Heart: THANK YOU
Today I am more the person I wanted to be than I ever believed was possible. Thank you for breaking my heart. Thank you for not believing in my dream. For calling it “a hobby.” Thank you for forbidding me to build a jewelry studio and calling my ideas “unrealistic.” It forced me to dream […]
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Stop Waiting Around For Him — His Indecision Is A Decision
If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. You deserve more. About 99% of the time, dating doesn’t make any sense. With all the ways you can meet and talk with men (both online and IRL), the possibility of you getting confused and misreading signals is insanely high. Making the importance of […]
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You Used To Be The Reason I Smiled, But Now All You Do Is Make Me Cry
You were always that one person who managed to always find your way back in… and I let you. Every time we got together I convinced myself that this time will be different, maybe this time you changed your mind, or I could make you change your mind. But it was always the same scenario, the same […]
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The 8 Times I SHOULD Have Left Him (But Didn’t)
When it came to him, I was weak and foolish. The problem with being in love with an a**hole is you forgive them for things that you would never, ever forgive anyone else for doing. I know this all too well, and looking back at what I forgave when it came to this particular man, […]
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Today I Walk Away
Today, I walk away. It’s not abandonment. I’m not giving up. I’m just realizing that the course you are on is one I’m not supposed to travel with you. It’s not throwing in the towel, it’s finally seeing that I’m not the one to get you through. Does this mean I no longer love you? […]
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An Open Letter To The Man Who Didn’t Fight For Me
To have to constantly choose between my need for autonomy and you felt deeply unfair. Dear You, Recently, while cleaning out my closet, I came across our photo taken on our day trip to the zoo and couldn’t help but smile. There you were, the man I was so head-over-heels in love with that I […]
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You Can Get PTSD From Staying In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
I wanted to leave, but I didn’t know how… Stop. Just stop asking why a woman is so stupid and so weak when she stays in an abusive relationship. There’s no answer you can possibly understand. Your judgment only further shames abused women. It shames women like me. There was no punch on the very first date […]