Just to let you know, you will eventually find the guy of your dreams so please stop believing that you will never find him.
You are young right now; maybe 20, 21, 22, 23, or older and you think that it is the end of the road for you. But it isn’t. It is merely the beginning of your journey.
Yes, it doesn’t include the guy of your dreams right now but you will eventually find him if you are patient. No, I am not just saying this as an outsider looking in, I am saying this as someone who has been where you are and once thought she was unlovable, different, and left out of the crowd because she had yet to find someone to call her own.
Nights spent with tears staining the pillow, hours spent scrolling through the feeds of couples, wondering when it was my turn and why I had to be cursed.
But, as I let go and begun to live my life, I slowly rid myself of those thoughts and those feelings. I sat with myself, in my pretty, in my ugly, in my confusion, in my pain and I lived.
I learned to accept and love myself for who I am, I stopped comparing myself to everyone else who found someone, was married, engaged, this that and the other. I let go and love found me in the most authentic and beautiful way yet.
It found me when I was grazing in the fields, unaware that someone out there was praying for a woman just like me to bless his life. Someone who thinks I’m beautiful just the way I am, amazing just the way I am, smart enough, funny enough, sexy enough, good enough.
So, if you are in the middle of texting a guy who hasn’t texted you back in weeks, I urge you to put down the phone for once and tell yourself you are enough for any man and most importantly, you are enough for yourself.
If you want me to explain the reason you are single, my only answer would be to say that it just isn’t time yet and as cliché as that sounds, my love, it’s the damn truth.
So for now, hold on to yourself and on to life until you find that special somebody. Remember you are young and you have your whole life ahead of you and life is also about a lot more than love. But my dear, love is something you will find. So for now, let go and let him find you.
Someone who was once where you are.