Never meeting the right guy gets old. You become impatient, figuring you might as well just go with the most convenient option since obviously the best one isn’t coming along. Don’t do it! You’re better than settling — hold out for your unicorn.
1. YOU’LL MISS THE ONE WHILE YOU’RE DATING SOME RANDOM.
You already know he’s not your forever guy, but you’re spending time and energy on him. What if the guy you should be dating slips right by you unnoticed because you’re with this asshat? Don’t take that risk.
2. YOU SHOULDN’T WASTE ENERGY ON A GUY WHO ISN’T RIGHT.
You only have so much emotional and physical energy to give. Don’t expend that on someone who doesn’t deserve your time. Spend it on yourself instead — you’ll be glad you did!
3. YOU CAN SPEND YOUR SINGLE TIME STRENGTHENING OTHER RELATIONSHIPS.
This could simply refer to your relationship with yourself, or it could extend to those with friends and family. No matter who you choose, you’ll be happy that you made the decision. It’s so much better to spend time working on your interactions with the people who will be around for a long time. Why waste your energy on a temporary dude?
4. YOU KNOW WHEN IT’S NOT YOUR GUY.
It doesn’t take long to figure out if someone is the right partner. You usually know that he’s not, even when you’re trying to convince yourself otherwise. Don’t cheat yourself and him. Let him goand save it for the person you’re supposed to date. You’ll be happier, and he’ll thank you later.
5. YOU CAN’T LOSE FAITH THAT HE’S OUT THERE.
Yes, it gets really discouraging when you feel like you’ll never find him. There are so many Mr. Right Nows instead of Mr. Right. It sucks. After enough failed dating attempts and relationships, you begin questioning whether anyone will ever click. If you think this way, you’ll dig yourself into a depressing hole. Stay hopeful and just continue being your amazing self. The right one will recognize how great you are.
6. WASTING TIME WITH A BUNCH OF PLAYERS WILL MAKE YOU JADED.
You think spending the night on the couch instead of on a date is depressing? Try going out with yet another self-involved douchebag. Do enough of that and you’ll despair that there are truly no good men left in the world. Of course you need to date if you’re going to find the right guy, but you can tell when you shouldn’t even bother. So don’t. Don’t do it out of boredom or sadness or frustration. Do it for the right reasons.
7. BEING ALONE IS AWESOME.
It is! It shouldn’t get so much undeserved hate. It’s so much better to be happily single and living an awesome life than stuck in a depressing, conflicted relationship. Don’t immerse yourself in drama just for the sake of having someone to call your boyfriend. It’s such a stupid thing to do. No one needs sex THAT badly. No one.
8. FINALLY BEING WITH THE RIGHT GUY WILL BE AWESOME TOO!
Simply put, you’ll know it’s the right one when it feels just as good to be with him as it did to be on your own. You won’t lose yourself in the relationship. You’ll stand side-by-side as equal, independent individuals willingly entering into a loving and supportive partnership. It’ll feel amazing, and there won’t be any doubts. That’s when you know you’ve finally got your unicorn.
By Amy Horton for Bolde