Is the commitment mutual?
It’s a sad truth but it’s one that we’re all just going to have to learn to live with. Sometimes, we can end up in a relationship with someone we’re wholeheartedly in love with; and yet that person doesn’t seem to be able to reciprocate the kind of intensity that your love is bringing to the table. Not to say that your partner doesn’t love you, it’s just that you don’t feel that he loves you as much as you love him. This kind of emotional imbalance in a relationship can be very disconcerting. For one, it can mean that you aren’t operating on the same wavelength as a couple. Two, it might also mean that one side of the relationship will hold all of the emotional power. But how do you know for sure if there is an emotional imbalance in the relationship? How do you know if your partner isn’t trying as hard as you?
It’s very important for you to always know where your partner’s headspace is with regards to your relationship. You have to be able to read one another to be able to accurately assess the state of your romantic union. If indeed an imbalance exists, then you need to be able to fix that if you want to promote the harmony of your relationship. If you allow this kind of emotional imbalance to persist in a relationship, then you are essentially dooming yourselves. You can’t be passive about this. You can’t just choose to turn a blind eye. This is an important issue and it needs to be addressed head on.
But how do you know for sure if there’s a problem? Well, there are a few signs that you can choose to keep an eye out for. Need some help trying to figure out what those signs are? Say no more. Here are the most common signs that your partner just isn’t as into the relationship as you.
1. You are the one who does all the planning all the time.
If he doesn’t help you out when it comes to planning fun couple activities like dates and vacations, then you can most likely bet that he’s not really interested in the relationship. He’s not very interested in preserving whatever flame the two of you might have sparked early on in the romance. He doesn’t feel the pressure to sustain the emotional bond that you share together. You’re the one who has to pick up the slack and fight for the both of you.
2. He refuses to actively talk about his plans for the future.
He rarely ever discusses his future plans with you unless you ask him about it. And even then, he still acts reluctant. It’s as if there is this whole other life that he knows and he doesn’t want you to be a part of it. You try so hard to be a big part of his world, but it feels like he’s just not interested in having you in it. If he were genuinely interested in you, he would be trying his best to make sure that you fit into his picture of the future.
3. He hasn’t introduced you to his friends and family.
Friends and family are always important. If you get into a relationship with a person, you are essentially choosing to gradually share your whole life with that person. But if he’s still not introducing you to his friends and family, then it probably means that he’s just not as invested in bringing you into his life as you are. He’s not so keen on letting you all the way in no matter how much you want it. He doesn’t want to give you full access just yet, and there’s a possibility that he might not ever.
4. He doesn’t really ask you much about yourself.
A person who is genuinely in love with you would always want to know every single thing there is to know about you. He would ask you about the things that you are most passionate about. He would ask you about your biggest dreams and goals. He would ask you about your feelings and your emotions on a consistent basis. But if he doesn’t express much interest in you, well then that’s a telltale sign that he’s not very interested in this relationship either.
5. He acts very nonchalant and detached about the problems in your relationship.
You are the only one who seems to be the fixer of all the problems in the relationship. You are the one who wants to talk everything out. You are the one who wants to bring up the elephant in the room all the time. But he’s just there, sitting idly by, watching as your relationship passes before his very eyes. He doesn’t really keep an eye out for points of improvement in the relationship because he doesn’t care as much as you do.