The damage can’t be undone.
Whether or not we read our horoscopes for an answer, we all do it to various and lesser degrees and sabotage our relationships at some point. Sometimes the damage you do is repairable, and other times, it signals the beginning of the end of your relationship. We may do it deliberately as a way to test the strength of our relationship or we may do it subconsciously because we can’t believe we’re worthy of a strong healthy relationship.
It doesn’t matter which gender you are, you still have the capabilities to completely destroy your relationship. Sometimes it’s certain characteristics of our personalities that make us do foolish things that affect our relationships.
Maybe you know that your partner absolutely hates the smell of smoke and you occasionally smoke a cigarette. The more you smoke, the more likely they are going to find out — there are not enough mints in the world to completely hide smoker’s smell. You can’t stop craving a cigarette even though you know you’re gambling with your relationship and, at one point, you’ll have to choose between smoking and your partner.
In healthy relationships, there are trade-offs; you give things up, you stop doing things that you enjoy, and you also pick up activities that you’re not interested in but your partner is. You may hate camping but if your boyfriend loves it, you’re going to get yourself to the outdoors store and buy everything you need to spend some time in the great outdoors.
But if it’s not worth it to you to keep your relationship, you’ll do what you can do to get out of it just like an animal caught in a trap. You might not be great at confrontation and speaking directly to someone when it will cause them pain, so you might do something that you know will offend or horrify them to the point that they break up with you.
Here are the zodiac signs that are toxic and how he’ll destroy his relationship, based on his sign.
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
He’s reckless and he’s going to do something foolish and foolhardy and possibly put himself or someone else in danger. There’s only so much of this kind of thoughtless and irresponsible behavior that anyone can take, and his partner will have reached the end of their rope with him, and the relationship will be damaged beyond repair.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
His passivity is going to damage his relationship. After a while of having him offer no opinion, no help, and no resistance, his partner is going to be beyond frustrated with him. It’s difficult to have a relationship with someone who not only has an uncaring attitude but doesn’t do anything. There are times when one needs to be detached from things but his disinterest isn’t going to endear him to anybody. No one wants a relationship with a slug.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
After he’s flaked on things a number of times, his partner will see how unreliable and untrustworthy he really is and they’ll want out. Being in a relationship with someone should make you feel supported and cared for, but he’s too undependable to make things easier for his partner. It’s better for his partner not to have to rely on him for anything because otherwise, he’ll only end up disappointing them.
CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
It’s nice to be needed but nobody wants a partner who is needy to the extreme the way this guy is. He’s clingy and so sensitive that his partner feels as if they can’t do anything without upsetting him. It’s difficult to live with someone so needy and it can be suffocating for their partner. In order to save their own life, the partner will end the relationship and the Cancer man will think about the ramifications of his actions long after the relationship is over.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
His relationship will end because he’ll feel that he’s not getting enough attention (and he’s never getting enough attention) from his partner, so he’ll try to supplement the attention from one of his many fans. He’ll move from relationship to another, always hungering for attention and never feeling satiated. He’s going to have to wake up and get out of this pattern for a relationship to last.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
He destroys his relationship by being a know-it-all. Have you ever been with someone like that? Someone who thinks they have all the answers and they don’t even let anyone get an answer in because they’re so convinced that no one knows it? In addition to being Mr. Encyclopedia, there will be times that he’s wrong but will never admit to it. It can be very frustrating to be with someone who never lets you shine or show off your own knowledge.
LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
He’ll damage his relationship by his unwillingness to be honest about his negative feelings. He’ll hold them in until he absolutely can’t and then will explode with rage. His outburst will be a huge over-reaction and will make his partner feel very unsafe in the relationship. Who knows what else will set him off and if the next time it will be even worse.
SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
Scorpio is one of the zodiac signs that are toxic because he’s way over the top with his emotions. It’s like living in an opera. He’s a drama king and is extremely intense, and not everybody can take his high-highs/low-lows every single day. His constant, volatile outbursts will put a strain on his relationship, chipping away at the foundation until it crumbles. He needs to learn how to control his emotions.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
He undermines his relationship by not censoring what he says and saying anything that comes into his head. Sometimes he can be insensitive, blunt, and can appear not to care about the effect his words have on his partner. Well, he’s going to have a big wake-up call when his partner has had enough of his hurtful words and end things. He may not be able to control his words but you have to wonder if he’s not doing this (subconsciously) because he’s terrified of being tied down.
CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)
There’s frugal and then there’s what he is, which is cheap. It’s understandable that someone would watch their finances and be careful with their money but he takes it to the extreme. He’ll fight with the check-out clerk to use an expired coupon or will purposely buy expired goods to save money. When he puts saving money ahead of caring about his relationship, that relationship is going to fail. No one wants to come in second to a bank balance.
AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)
He’s an extremist — there’s no middle ground with him. His all or nothing attitude can be very difficult to live with. If you don’t believe exactly as he does then he wants nothing to do with you, and that’s not the way to a healthy relationship. He’s very stubborn with his ideals and refuses to consider any other point of view.
PISCES (February 19 – March 20)
He jumps into relationships too quickly without getting to know the person first and then after the initial buzz has worn off, he’ll find himself disillusioned and wanting to get out. The last thing he’ll want to do is hurt his partner, so he’ll stick with it until his partner realizes that basically they’re in the relationship alone and will want out. When he’s finally single, he’ll do the whole thing all over again.
By Christine Schoenwald for YourTango