When you love yourself first, you teach everyone else how they’re supposed to treat you.
Easier said than done right?
I can promise you that you are not alone. We all go through periods of time when we amp up how critical we are about ourselves.
I know what it’s like to cry because you’re unhappy because you’re struggling to see the good in you.
You have to remember to dig deep down and find that wonderful woman you are.
You look in the mirror and you hate what you see. You instantly pick out everything you wish you could change.
When you pass people walking down the street you quickly turn away because you think they are noticing everything you hate and they are judging you for it.
Overthinking if I may guess is one of your best traits. A simple look, a quick glance, a misread text message, a conversation can send you over the edge.
All rational thinking can go out the window because it’s easier to think everything is going to crash down and go wrong than accept the fact that life is not always bringing you down.
Relationships end and even if it wasn’t your fault you continuously blame yourself, you continuously wonder what is wrong with you.
You hold onto the hurt and the memories and they seem to over consume you.
You have to learn how to let go. You have to learn how to forgive.
You don’t have to forget the people that have hurt you or let you down but you do have to learn how to forgive but you’re not doing it for them, you are doing it for you.
When you let go of some of those feelings that are weighing you down you’ll see a brighter light and it will be easier to remember who you really are.
It isn’t going to happen overnight. Seriously you are going to have to learn how to take things day by day. Celebrate the victories and take deep breaths during the setbacks.
You can overcome those setbacks.
Don’t be ashamed of how you feel. Sometimes you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about it but you can. You have friends and loved ones that will support you regardless of anything you say or think about yourself.
It does get better.
You will figure out what you want in life, you will become a stronger individual because of the setbacks you’ve been through.
What you feel like is an endless battle can end. When you start telling yourself that you’re enough and you start building yourself back up then you’ll start feeling like a complete person again. You aren’t meant to be like everyone else.
Barbie is plastic, she isn’t real. Photoshop is a tool that erases all the things people hate about themselves but that isn’t real.
You are real. You are beautiful. You are intelligent and you are worthy of being loved. You are deserving of your own love as well.
Stop trying to live up to everyone else’s standards of what a woman is supposed to be like and live up to your own standards.
Set small goals; realize that every day isn’t going to go your way. Realize that you can’t please everyone and that those that actually care about you aren’t judging you on the little things. They see you for the inspiring woman you are.
It’s takes a single thought, a single moment to fall back in love with yourself again.
The struggle is real. Please don’t think I don’t understand because I do. Just don’t stop trying and don’t give up on yourself.
Loving yourself is one of the hardest things to do in the world, because you push yourself to be the best you can be and when you don’t live up to that you think you failed.
You’re not a failure, you’re human. You’re a woman.
An incredible one at that.
By Audi Anderson