If five out of nine of these signs match, you need to move on!
Sometimes, you need life to just give you a huge slap in the face in order for you to figure out that the universe is telling you that you’re not on the right path. You have to admit that your stubbornness has gotten the best of you at times and it’s no different this time around. You’re in a relationship with someone you think you’re very much in love with. You think that this is the kind of relationship that’s going to last forever. You know that it isn’t perfect, but you also know that there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, right? That’s why you keep pushing on. You know that eventually things are going to pick up and get better for you.
However, you’re wrong. You’re in the wrong relationship and you need to get out. All the signs are there and you’re just practically wasting everyone’s time with how stubborn you are. Sometimes, you have to accept that things just won’t always work out the way that you want them to no matter how hard you try. This is one of those times. Read the signs. Accept them. And move on.
1. You are losing sleep at night because of the relationship.
A loving romance should be the cause that you sleep soundly and look forward to your dreams at night. It shouldn’t be the reason that you’re actually losing sleep. If you find yourself being a constant insomniac because of your relationship, then you definitely know that something is wrong and that this isn’t a sustainable way of living.
2. You don’t feel comfortable about expressing yourself in the relationship.
You should always feel free and open to express whatever you feel in a relationship. You should always be able to say whatever you want to your partner without being afraid of feeling judged or criticized. The best relationships are built on free and open communication lines and if your relationship just doesn’t offer you an outlet for verbal expression, then it really isn’t the right one for you.
3. You are afraid to talk about your sexual needs.
You have to always be open and honest with your partner when it comes to discussing what you need out of the relationship. These needs can take various shapes and forms and you shouldn’t be shy about asking for them. You shouldn’t be ashamed of telling your partner about your sexual needs.
4. You are hesitant to integrate your significant other into your social circle.
There’s a reason you don’t want to mix your romantic life and the rest of your social life. You don’t want your partner to meet your friends because you know that there’s just something off about that equation. Deep in your heart, you know that your friends are going to judge your partner and that your partner is going to hate your friends.
5. You always feel emotionally drained whenever you spend time with one another.
It’s a struggle to be with one another. Yes, relationships are going to require a lot of hard work but they shouldn’t have to be exhausting all the time. You should always be able to mostly feel a sense of ease and comfort whenever you are in each other’s presence.
6. You don’t get upset whenever you cancel on each other.
You don’t look forward to date nights with each other because as previously stated, it’s a struggle whenever you spend time with one another. It’s stressful on your part and you just don’t want to have to deal with that stress constantly. That’s why you secretly get relieved whenever your partner has to cancel on a date. In a real relationship, you would want to spend as much time with each other as possible. But somehow, in your relationship, it’s the opposite.
7. You stop doing the things that you love the most for the relationship.
You’ve given up your passions and your favorite hobbies for the sake of the relationship. You have practically compromised your individuality as a person because the relationship has required for it to be that way. You are hating this new person that you’ve become and you hate this life that you’ve inherited and it’s all because of the relationship.
8. You find yourself having to defend the relationship to your own self.
Deep in the back of your head, you know that this relationship isn’t right for you. But still your stubbornness won’t allow for you to just give up so easily. As much as you want to get out of the relationship, you still try very hard to convince yourself to stay and stick things out.
9. Your long-term goals don’t mesh well together.
A relationship could never be sustainable if you don’t have long-term goals that mesh well with one another’s. You need to be able to talk about the future of your relationship in a healthy manner and you need to be able to find a compromise should you have any differences.
By A for RelationshipRules