When someone you love walks away is devastating. Instead of beating yourself up as to why they left, you should realize that they just didn’t love you the way you loved them. Any person who isn’t willing to fight for you isn’t deserving of the fight you will put up for them. Any person who is willing to leave doesn’t deserve a place in your heart.
Because it’s this simple. If someone loves you, they don’t leave.
Despite the reasons some people have when they decide to leave a relationship, the truth of the matter is that they just didn’t love you enough. They may have feelings for you but their love wasn’t strong enough to make them want to stay.
When you love deeply and intensely, you won’t easily leave someone you love. You’re willing to bend over backward in an attempt to keep the relationship alive.
When someone loves you, no matter how difficult you are at times, no matter how many meaningless arguments you have about things or how juvenile the both of you were acting—all of those fights and disagreements have no meaning in comparison to what you mean to each other.
When someone loves you they don’t just disappear when you both become frustrated, mad, or tired. They understand that the arguments and fights don’t make your relationship; love does.
When someone loves you, they will understand your mind. They won’t let differences tear you apart. On the contrary, they will love your differences rather than using them against you. The differences will bring you together, the things you both find unfamiliar about each other somehow mold together.
When someone loves you, they will stay to endure the storms with you. No matter how strong the winds are they will weather any storm that comes your way. Hard times might tear you apart, but when someone loves you they’ll keep believing and they’ll keep holding on. They will stay because they know that going through those phases in life make the relationships stronger and that better times will soon come.
When someone loves you, all they want to do is be there for you and help you more than you want to help yourself.
When someone loves you, they see the worst parts of you and still choose to stay. They will see you at your most vulnerable, often lowest points, and they’ll be there reaching out their hand to help you get back up.
When someone loves you, they’ll find the way somehow to keep love from dying out.
If they love you, they won’t leave when you are hard to love. They won’t leave when you when you need them the most. They won’t leave when life tests your love. They won’t leave when challenges cross your paths and when life throws curve-balls at you. If they love you, they will stay no matter what.
At the end of the day, staying is a choice they have to make again and again.
Leaving is also choice. If that’s what they want then let them go.
If someone is unable to see what makes you special, what makes you beautiful, and they don’t want to pursue a future with you, then let them leave. They don’t deserve the love you are willing to give.
There is someone out there and you will find that person. You will find someone whose love will fit perfectly in the cracks inside your heart. You will find the person that you need and who needs you just as much. You will be the reason why they stay.
Someone who looks forward to a future with you every single day. Someone who appreciates every little detail about you. Someone that will stay when it rains. Someone that is strong enough to face the adversities and the unknown that the future will bring.
Be with someone that loves you with every fiber of their being and couldn’t even fathom what it would be like if you weren’t by their side. Be with someone that will cherish you like a precious gem and will hold on to you. Be with someone that will never leave your side.
Because it’s this simple, when someone loves you, they will stay.
By Mitzi J Hernandez for ThoughtCatalog