You know that this girl is still out there. You know deep in your heart that she is still loving you with all of your heart. But you might not know is that she isn’t ALWAYS going to be there. She’s not going to stay if you continue to treat her the way that you have. This is how you will lose her even if she happens to love you with all of her heart.
You just don’t send her those texts in the morning anymore so that she has something nice to wake up to. She goes to sleep at night by herself no longer hoping for a “good night” text message from you.
She no longer anticipates random phone calls from you late at night asking about how her day went or how she’s feeling. She has just plainly stopped expecting you to do any of these things because you have stopped giving her a reason to do so.
You have stopped making her feel like a priority in life. You have stopped making her feel like she’s the most important girl in your world. At this point, she just always feels like she’s constantly being taken for granted. At this point, she’s always feeling dejected, undervalued, and underappreciated.
But you shouldn’t take her tolerance to mean that she’s going to stick around forever. If you continue to treat her this way, you’re going to lose her. And you will realize just how great you have it with her right now.
When you have free time, do you ever think about her? When you get a chance to get away from the office for a bit, do you give her a phone call to let her know that you’re thinking about her? She is waiting for you to get in touch with her but do you make an effort to do so? How many days do you think she’s going to allow herself to go on like this? She doesn’t want to make it seem like she is demanding all of your time.
In fact, she doesn’t really demand anything in your relationship at all. But she knows that she is deserving of so much more than you are actually giving to her. She knows that she deserves to have more of your time. She knows that she deserves to feel like she’s being made a priority. She deserves to be made to feel like she is an important person in your life. And you’re just not doing enough to give her the things that she is deserving of.
Do you even remember the last time you told her that she looked beautiful? Do you even remember the last time that you told her that you liked what she was wearing? Do you even remember the last time you just stared at your girl and made her feel like she was the only woman in the world? When was the last time you asked her about how she has been feeling? When was the last time you showed her concern for her physical or emotional well-being?
Did you take the time to ask her about how she’s doing today? When was the last time that you just gave her a hug to make her feel better about herself? Do you remember? These may seem like very little things but they actually go a long way with her. They are very important to her. They may seem simple and trivial to you, but if you don’t understand why it’s important to her, then you’re really going to end up losing her. One day, she’s going to start treating you the way that you treat her now. And you’re going to feel just how much you take her existence in your life for granted.
Have you ever gotten the sense in your relationship that maybe she feels really lonely despite the fact that you’re always together? You might be in a relationship but she still feels very much alone and ignored. And if she continues to feel this way in your love, she isn’t going to be able to take it for much longer.
It’s been hurting her inside to be in a relationship where she doesn’t even feel like she belongs in. It’s been killing her to know that you don’t really think it important enough to treat her better. It kills her to know that maybe she’s going to have to walk away from you at some point because she will not be able to bear with all of the pain. And when she does leave you, there is no turning back. You will have lost her forever and it will be all your fault. She loves you but that will not be enough to make her want to stay with you.
By RelRules