When you lose someone or something important to you, it may take some time for you to be at peace with the fact that things have changed.
You may see it as a negative experience in your life and question the reason such a ‘terrible’ thing has happened to you.
But at the end of the day, it has happened… the person you loved changed, the relationship you had was no longer the same, something has happened for that part of your life to no longer serve a purpose to you, and maybe not today, but one day it will all make perfect sense.
Now are you going to let that experience destroy you? Are you going to cry and complain about the way things have turned out? Are you going to let this hold a dark cloud over your life forever?
Or are you going to move on? Are you going to get up, kick it to the curb and find your happiness again? Recreate your life and remember all the little things you once enjoyed?
They are the things that you SHOULD be doing. There is no point in holding onto moments that no longer exist and moments that once destroyed you. People change and that’s a shame, but honey, you have the power to change as well, always remember that.
We live in a society where cheating is so common and loyalty is hard to find. But being so young with a whole life ahead of you should push you to realize how great you really are. You are better than that and you definitely don’t deserve that treatment, believe me.
You don’t have to sit around and cry, you can turn your experience into a positive one! Realize what a diamond you really are and how it is truly their loss and not yours! Build that self confidence and be you!! Change your negative mindset into a positive one.
Things may be tough now, no denying that. But at the end of the day, the world turns no matter what, there are millions of great experiences waiting for you. Don’t hold back because you’ve lost something, go out there and find something better!
Not every boy in the world is the same and please do not let your mind trick you into believing that. There still are wonderful people out there, there is someone out there waiting for only you. You may find that you bump into them when you are least expecting it, but that’s half the excitement!
And someday, when you are ready to knock down those walls, you’ll remember how beautiful life really is, you’ll remember how incredible it is to meet a new person. Learning everything about them, staying up till early hours of the morning chatting to them, getting those butterflies in your stomach again.
Although this time, you’ll appreciate everything so much more and you’ll be so much more sure of everything because deep down you know this person would never do a thing to hurt you.
Now it’s your job to develop a stronger mind, a stronger soul and a stronger heart. Uncover the unknown. Show everybody what they are missing out on. In doing this you will find love. Love for the world, love for the simple things, maybe even love for another soul, but most importantly, love for yourself.
Heal your own heart and allow somebody else to nourish it (just not as much as you).
By Taylah Hili for ThoughtCatalog