You don’t have to put your life on hold and wait for him to call you. You don’t have to keep on waiting for him to make an effort with you. You shouldn’t have to keep on making excuses for how terribly he treats you; for how poorly he conducts himself in the relationship. You need to see him for who he really is. You can’t keep on blinding yourself to reality at this point. For your own good, you need to stay vigilant; you need to be seeing the truth. You can’t be lying to yourself about his poor character. You can’t let him have all of the power in your relationship. You can’t let him dictate how you see yourself.
You can’t let him have the final say with regards to your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. You really need to put yourself at the center of your own life. You can’t allow him to be in charge of how you take care of yourself. You can’t let your sense of happiness depend on him. At the end of the day, he has to be someone who meets your expectations He has to be the kind of guy who works hard to meet your needs. And if he fails to do those things; if he shows an unwillingness to put in the effort in your relationship, you really need to let him go. You need to walk away from that man. He isn’t someone you should be putting your life on hold for.
You are only going to be setting yourself for a lot of heartbreak and disappointment by waiting for a man who is just never going to arrive. You don’t have to put your life on hold and wait for him to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. If he isn’t treating you with love and respect at this very moment, then why are you still even with him? Why are you so tolerant of his mistreatment of you? You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and basic decency. And if he can’t do that, why would you want to stay and wait around for him? You dream of a great life for yourself. You envision a great love for yourself.
And so why are you settling for anything less than you dreamed up? And even worse, why are you settling for him in particular? You should never let anyone think that it’s okay to not treat you with care and respect. You shouldn’t have to chase after a man who you have to beg to treat you fairly. You shouldn’t have to put your life on hold for a man who isn’t worthy of your time. You shouldn’t have to keep on suffering at the hands of a guy who doesn’t even think twice about you. You don’t have to stay with him. You have other options – better options. You need to be able to stand up for yourself.
You need to be able to hold your ground and set your own boundaries. You need to be able to really go after what you want – even if that means having to let him go in the process. At the end of the day, the longer that you decide to stay attached to him, the more you will be depriving yourself of the happiness that you so desperately want. You can’t keep on waiting around in the hopes that he’s eventually going to change for you. You can’t keep thinking that he’s just going to come around in the future and treat you in the way that you’ve always wanted to be treated. Remember that your life is now. Remember that you need to live in the present;
and the truth is that your situation right now is less than ideal. He is the guy that he is; and it’s highly unlikely that he will ever become the guy that you so desperately want him to be. You shouldn’t be so willing to bet your romantic life on someone who just isn’t showing you any signs or prospects for change. You shouldn’t be so willing to sacrifice your immediate happiness for a life of unsure bliss with a man who is probably never going to change.
If he’s a quality guy, he would chase after you the moment that you decide to put your foot down and leave him. And if he doesn’t chase after you, then that just goes to show that he isn’t a guy who is worth waiting around for after all. Your time is valuable, and you can’t let anyone else be telling you how to spend it. You can’t be wasting your time on a love that is never going to come. Always pursue the love that you know you can get; the love that is right for you.
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