It seems like more and more young people these days are starting to have more and more sex – regardless of whether they’re in relationships or not. That can be both a good thing, and a bad thing. On the one hand, we all know sex to be the ultimate manifestation of physical intimacy and closeness between two people. But on the other hand, it can also be used as a tool for manipulation and abuse. And it’s very important for people to know what they’re getting into before they actually start engaging in it. Granted, there are also negative physical effects that come with reckless sex (STD’s, unwanted pregnancies, injuries, etc.); but there are also some substantially negative emotional effects as well that need to be taken into consideration.
So if you’re just starting a new relationship with someone, you shouldn’t feel so pressured to have sex with one another right away. In fact, there are plenty of reasons why it would be wiser for you to just wait before you actually do the deed. And here are a few of those reasons.
1. Sex is so much better when you get to know the person you’re doing it with first.
There is something just innately special in having sex for the first time with someone who you have a real emotional bond and connection with. It makes everything so much more meaningful and more personal as opposed to just having casual sex with someone you barely know.
2. Having sex too early can lead you to premature emotional attachment.
It’s science. You don’t want to get too emotionally attached to a guy to the point where you become clingy and annoying. Avoid sex for now and let your feelings develop at a normal pace.
3. The thrill of the anticipation could lead to higher levels of pleasure.
It’s a very common technique that a lot of couples use to make sure that their first time is a very special and climactic one. Sometimes, the buildup is just as good as the actual climax itself. And if you do things right, then the thrill of anticipation could pay off greatly for when the two of you actually decide to do it.
4. You don’t want to have any regrets.
You won’t regret making him wait for a little bit more than just wrongly giving into his desires right away. If you’re not completely sure about having sex just yet, then you don’t have to do it. It’s that plain and simple.
5. You have to be looking out for your own physical well-being.
You want to make sure that you are getting the full picture first. You don’t want to be opening your legs up to a guy who might put your health at risk. STD’s are very much real especially in this modern age. And you want to make sure that he doesn’t have anything that might jeopardize your health.
6. If you’re going to be spending the rest of your lives together, then you don’t have to rush into anything.
Why rush? Remember the best things in life are always worth waiting for – especially love.
7. Making him wait is a good way to gauge his real intentions with you.
If he’s the kind of guy who is going to leave you just because you’re making him wait for sex, then he’s not really a guy worth being with in the first place.
8. Abstinence might lead him to want you even more.
When you hold back from giving him the whole story, you are keeping him on a leash; and he is going to want to come back
9. Sex isn’t the only way to express physical intimacy and affection.
If you feel like you need to express physical intimacy for one another but aren’t comfortable with having sex just yet, you don’t have to worry. There are other ways in which you can express your affection for one another – and they don’t have to be sexual in nature at all.
10. He isn’t entitled to having your body whenever he wants.
You have full ownership of your body. Just because he wants to have sexual relations with you doesn’t mean that you have to automatically submit just because you are in a relationship with one another. You still get to decide what you want to do with your body.
11. You shouldn’t feel pressured to have sex just because everyone else is doing it.
Judge your relationship on its own merits. Just because so many couples around you have active sex lives doesn’t mean that you have to be the same. You get to define the personality and character of your relationship.
12. You just feel like you’re not ready for it yet.
It takes a great deal of humility to be able to admit it, but if you feel like you’re not ready for sex just yet, then you really shouldn’t be having it. You shouldn’t be jumping into things that you have no idea about. You should only be having sex when you feel like you can comfortably do so.