While it’s nice to go all-out sometimes and do things like buying your partner an extravagant gift, planning a secret trip for some special occasion, or surprising them with some other grand romantic gesture, this can’t be the only thing that a relationship thrives on.
What’s more essential for a relationship than all these things that we see in the movies is the simple act of paying attention! Pay attention to the things they say to you. Pay attention to how they’re feeling. And pay attention to the things that make them smile.
If you’ve found a partner who truly pays attention to you, then this is someone you can trust to always stand by your side.
This is a person who understands how the small things matter most because these are the things you do for people simply because you love them, not for a special occasion and not with a hidden agenda.
Here are 10 small romantic acts which, in reality, speak volumes for a relationship:
1. Writing love notes
Yes, I know this isn’t high school. But that’s exactly why no one will ever expect to wake up or sit in their car and see a small piece of paper by their side with a simple “I love you” written inside. It’s easy. It’s free. And you can leave it absolutely anywhere to surprise your significant other. This is a sure shot way of putting a smile on their face.
2. Listening
When you’re in a healthy relationship, both of you rely on each other for constant love, support, and guidance. And in some situations, the best you can do for your partner is to sincerely listen to everything they have to say, without saying a word, and just allowing them to let it all out.
3. Doing that one thing they really want to do
Whether it’s watching the TV show your partner really loves, or going to see the play that doesn’t really excite you, or maybe just trying out that new restaurant they’ve been talking about for ages. I know you have zero interest in these activities, but do them anyway (And remember to keep a good attitude about it).
4. Sending a good morning text
Do this the minute you wake up. Let them know that they’re always the first thought on your mind as soon as you open your eyes. This won’t only brighten up their day but their reply will surely brighten up yours as well.
5. Match your words with your actions. Be reliable.
The best kind of partner is a person you can always count on without any worries. You know they will always be there for you. You know they’ll be your biggest support system in your time of need.
You know they’ll be there to protect you in situations where no one else can. And you won’t ever be left wondering whether they’ll stick to the promises they made, whether they’ll do that thing you asked or just ditch you in the last minute, because this one person in your life is reliable!
6. Being thoughtful
A lot of us tend to overlook the significance of staying thoughtful in a relationship. Life moves very fast for everyone and sometimes, we get so involved in our daily routines that we start to lose sight of the importance of actually working towards keeping our significant other happy. And this is where the initial passion and excitement of the relationships starts to fade away.
If you really want to make it work, learn each other’s likes and dislikes. Support each other during all the hard times and encourage each other during the good times. Pay attention to all the small details.
Do the special things that you know your partner will like. Staying thoughtful will help you love and connect more deeply with the people around you.
7. Staying patient with your partner
If you ever hopeto build a strong relationship with someone, patience is the most essential trait you’ll need. Patience is what helps us learn more about each other and understand the differences in our personalities.
Patience is what helps a person adjust, and also to remain kind while adjusting. And patience is what helps a couple in having productive discussions rather than pointless arguments.
8. Staying honest
Honesty is a quality that everyone in your life will expect from you. You may not be able to live up to everyone’s expectations in this regard but it is absolutely necessary to display this quality at all times to that one special person in your life. Staying honest with your partner will show them that you actually respect them enough to be straight up.
This doesn’t mean that you should just say anything you like without any consideration for their feelings. You need to choose your words wisely, but you also need to make sure that your partner is assured of the fact that no matter what the situation is, you will always give them a straight answer about everything.
9. Making your partner feel safe
I’m not just talking about physical safety here, but emotional safety as well. Your partner should feel safe in confiding their deepest secrets to you.
They should feel safe in revealing the darkest corners of their personality when you’re around, without any fear of judgment. And they should feel safe in expressing themselves and opening up to you about anything that comes to their mind.
10. Always having the will to compromise
It’s true that you should have some kind of compatibility with the person you choose to be with, but that doesn’t automatically mean that you both will start to love every single thing about each other. When you actually care about a person and their happiness, you will always be willing to watch, do, and experience the things they enjoy.
By Misty Renee for RelationshipRules