Don’t. Please don’t. Just don’t!
1.He is never going to be truly ‘yours’
Now I’m not implying here that anyone is supposed to ‘belong’ to someone in life. We’re all independent human beings who are entitled to have an identity that isn’t solely defined by our relationship. But the problem here is that this guy will never be able to commit himself fully to you, regardless of the fact that he is happy with his marriage or not. No matter how happy you make him, no matter what kind of special connection you share, and no matter how many times he comes to you in the night instead of going back to her, the fact remains that he is a married guy. He has someone else to think about, someone who shares a more official relationship with him at the moment.
2.People are going to judge you
While it’s true that people always talk behind our backs no matter what the situation is, you still need to accept the fact that this particular relationship is going to cause even more gossip than usual. And more often than not, this gossip will consist of people talking very poorly of you. They might not know your situation hundred percent but they know enough to think of you as the other woman and the reason behind the failure of someone else’s marriage.
3.You can never ensure whether he’s telling you the right story
Do you find yourself obsessing and going crazy over where he might be, what he might be doing, or who he’s with at the moment? Well, prepare yourself to keep feeling that way your entire life if you don’t plan to end this relationship any time soon. Every story has two different sides and the fact that this isn’t official, the fact that your relationship has to be kept a secret at all times, will always mean that you can’t know any other side except the one he keeps telling you.
4.You will always remain ‘a secret’
You can’t talk about him with your friends. You can’t be seen with him in public. You can’t even take any pictures together out of the fear of getting caught somehow. And don’t even begin to think about ever meeting his family or friends. He isn’t going to let anyone know about you simply because admitting to this relationship will make him look bad.
5.You both might be in love with each other, but you’re the only who is alone
I know he really loves you. I know he makes you feel things you never even knew were possible. I know he’s going to take a stand for you one day. But when all is said and done, he just goes back home to his wife while you go back to an empty bed wishing you were with him.
6.There will never come a time when you get to wake up next to him every day
What really is the end goal for your relationship? Do you think you can accept seeing him for short periods in the day and usually in the night or do you want a relationship where you eventually get to spend every moment of your day with the person you love? If you would go with the latter, then stop pulling yourself deeper into a relationship that holds no promises for your future.
7.You will constantly have to make excuses for him
“He doesn’t actually love her.” “She never made him happy.” “He has so many responsibilities on him.” Yes, we’re all really sad for him but you know what? Even after all those problems, he is still married to her!
8.He will constantly have to make excuses for himself
“I just never felt happy with her.” “But I don’t really love her.” “I have too many responsibilities.” And yet, you’re still wearing that ring on your finger!
9.He just isn’t faithful
If he can cheat on his wife, what exactly makes you believe that he will never cheat on you? How are you different from the woman he made his vows to, the woman he decided to spend his entire life with, and the woman who still waits for him every night without questioning where he has been?
10Because you deserve better
You deserve someone who wouldn’t think twice before telling the entire world about how much he loves you. You deserve someone who hopes to spend all his days and nights with just you. You deserve someone who knows how to be loyal to his girl.
You deserve someone who truly knows your worth and someone who is actually here to stay. So stop settling for anything less.
By Misty Renee for RelRules