Don’t give up!
Falling in love with someone who loves you in return might be the pinnacle of the human social experience. That’s what we’re all striving for. We all yearn to be loved in the way that we think we deserve to be. We all look for that special kind of love that just brings out the best in us; that inspires us to go about our daily lives with joy and contentment. However, it must be known that while it is great to fall in love with a person, we also risk getting hurt by that love. Love is always going to be a risk. You put yourself out there and you make yourself more vulnerable for the sake of a relationship. You open yourself up to the possibility of getting hurt. You place your trust in the hands of another person in the hopes that things will turn out okay.
But the sad truth is that love doesn’t always work out for the best. People are just going to have to learn to accept this fact. It takes a lot of effort, time, and commitment in order for love to work. Some people make the mistake of walking away from love a little too soon. Even the slightest sign of a challenge is enough to frighten them away. People must understand that love is never going to be easy. You have to be brave enough to actually face the challenges that come with it. You are going to have to endure the hardships if you want to see things through. While, of course, it would be wise for you to walk away from doomed relationships, you have maintain the least bit of optimism. Just because things seem bleak in a relationship doesn’t mean that you aren’t going to pull through.
Here are a few signs that you just aren’t supposed to walk away from your relationship just yet.
1. Neither of you want to break up.
That’s great. If neither of you want to break up, then that means you still have a fighting chance. It means that both of you are still willing to put in the effort that it takes to make this relationship work. It means that neither of you are willing to let this thing die.
2. There is unfinished business between you and your partner.
If there is something about your partner that bothers you, or if you feel like there’s something off within the dynamics of your relationship, then try seeking a simple resolution first. Talk things out with each other and see where your conversations lead. Don’t just walk away instantly.
3. You are dealing with a problem that you’ve never encountered before.
If the problem is new, then that means it isn’t necessarily going to be a terminal one. This gives you and your partner an opportunity to face a new challenge and to overcome a new obstacle as a team. Life isn’t going to stop throwing problems your way after all.
4. Your partner makes a genuine effort to change bad habits.
If your partner is still trying to change for the better, then there is always a chance the relationship can still work. It means that compromise is prevalent in the relationship for the greater good of your shared love for one another.
5. Most of your doubt stems from the noise outside of the relationship.
You let your friends or your family talk you into doubting your love and romance. They try to tell you what to do even though they don’t see things from your perspective; even though they don’t know the ins and outs of the relationship like you do.
6. You don’t have all the facts straight as of yet.
You just heard from this friend that your partner is cheating on you. You just listened to your mother give you a sermon about how your partner isn’t right for you. None of these are definitive. You have to be sure. Get all the facts straight and come up with a decision on your own.
7. Your partner made an honest mistake.
We’re all human and we’re all going to have our fair share of stumbles every so often. Don’t crucify your relationship just because your partner made a small boo boo.
8. Whatever problems you have can be fixed.
Not all problems or issues in a relationship are deal breakers. In fact, a lot of issues that loving couples encounter are very solvable. You just have to develop the patience and resilience that is needed to overcome a lot of these issues.
9. You are acting out of fear.
You’re just afraid that you are going to get your heart broken and so you want to beat your partner to the punch. You want to be the one who ends things so that you don’t get blindsided. That’s not a good enough excuse for you to walk away. You shouldn’t let fear rule your life.