Sometimes, love just isn’t going to be enough. And you’re going to have to learn to confront that truth if you want to be mature in love and relationships. You can’t just force things to go your way with sheer persistence and stubbornness. You have to remember that there are so many factors that go into making a relationship work; and sometimes, the strength of your love is going to be overpowered by so many other things. The sooner you accept that, then the sooner you will be able to find happiness in love. Because if you just refuse to accept that fact and you let things get drawn out, then you’re going to be miserable and empty.
Of course, compatibility and maturity have got a lot to do with it. You and your partner could be deeply in love with one another. But if neither of you are mature enough to handle your problems like adults, then your relationship is never going to last. You both might be immensely passionate about spending the rest of your lives together, but if you’re just not compatible, then it’s going to be hard to find a way to merge your individual lives into a shared narrative. That’s why it’s important to recognize in moments like these when it would be appropriate for you to let go and walk away from the person you love.
And that’s the hardest part. Love has a way of blinding us from the things that we really need to be seeing. You could love your partner so much that you could be blinding yourself from the truth: that you’re really not meant to be together. And if that’s the case, you’re in for a world of hurt. You have to remember that the more you stay on top of things in a relationship, then the better you can prepare yourself for what is to come. But if you just continue on acting blindly, then you’re in for a rude awakening. And you’re not going to enjoy it.
It’s perfectly possible for you to be in a relationship with someone you love; and yet, still know that things just aren’t going to work out. When that’s the case, you need to be strong and mature enough to be able to just call things off and not let things get drawn out. Don’t wait any more than you have to. Remember that the longer you draw things out, the longer you are depriving yourselves of finding a love that actually works out for the best. Don’t prolong the heartache. Call it quits. Say your goodbyes.
And try to move on the best way you can. And if you’re wondering if now is the time for you to end things with your partner, then you can read this article. If a lot of the things apply to your situation, it’s probably time for you to break up with the one you love.
1. They say that you are their everything.
You can’t be someone’s “everything” because that’s just plain unhealthy. That’s too much pressure. You need to be in a relationship with someone who has a life outside of your relationship.
2. They don’t want to grow or mature.
Love is dynamic. It never stays the same throughout the duration of a relationship. And you can best bet that if your partner refuses to mature, then your love is going to end up being dysfunctional.
3. You are the only one who is putting in the work for the relationship.
It’s a team effort. It always takes two dedicated souls to make a relationship work. If you’re the only one who is putting in the effort, then perhaps you need to reevaluate what you’re even trying so hard for. You deserve to fall in love with someone who loves you just as much.
4. You both share very irreconcilable life goals.
No matter where you’re headed, it’s just never going to work because you don’t share similar visions of the future. If you can’t reconcile your future goals, then you’re just suspended in a relationship vacuum where you can’t move forward.
5. You’re both not working at each other’s pace.
Sometimes, the timing is just off. One person might want to take things to the next level and the other doesn’t. It’s a classic case of having the right love at the wrong time.
6. You can never bring yourself to trust each other.
It’s perfectly possible to be in love with someone you don’t trust. However, that doesn’t mean that it’s right. The only way for a mutual love to ever work out for the best if is there is mutual trust in the relationship as well. If you can’t trust one another, then it’s probably because there’s no reason to do so.
7. You’re not a better person because of your relationship.
You always need to fall in love with a person who makes you want to be better. If you are worse off in your relationship than when before you went into it, then it’s the wrong relationship for you.